So I have officially been labled the black sheep of my family since the decisions that I have made over the last year and a half are not to the taste of my family. Now that my daughter is born all of the true colors from family memebers are coming to the surface.
Since I had a child with another man I have cast a bad name on the family.....Ok let me get this straight and clarify...we are talking about the same family which all of my aunts and uncles have been at least once divorced, where my biological father has been twice divorced, where my mother has been divorced and re-married, where my brother's "wife" is still married to her first husband and her and my brother have a daughter together.....
ISN'T THAT THE SAME DAMN THING...I am still for all intents and purposes "married" yet I had a child with another man....Kettle, kettle yes hello kettle....this is pot....you be black bitch!
Things with my husband have been over for a while, we just have not made the move to make it official. Hell my husband is the one that is telling everyone that he thinks it was a mistake in the first place to get married. I love knowing the fact that 7 years of my life have been a complete waste. Thanks douchenugget!
Yet all eyes are focused on me, why have I not gotten a job? why am I staying with my mother and not my husband? why am I not in Florida yet? what is taking so long with the divorce? why are you doing this, why are you doing that? Why don't you have any money?
Please excuse me while I get the podium set up for the freaking press conference. I will answer all your questions accordingly. *Steps to podium, proceeds to turn around, drops trou and moons all you piss ants!*Stick that in your tail pipe and smoke it.
Now that I have done that little moon dance allow me to set somethings straight:
1) No job- I had an emergency c-section and due to that and some other health issues I am not allowed to work for 6 to 8 weeks....hummm let me see we are just starting on week 3.
2)No place to call home- I am staying with my mom for a safe place for me and my daughter. Since I am seperated from my husband having my child in a bassinet in the living room while I couch surf because we don't share a marital bed anymore just seems like oh so much fun....umm I think not.
3) Florida bound? Yes, eventually. Right now there are some things that need to be set into place before any of that can happen. As much as I wish it had happened MONTHS ago.
4) I now pronounce you free from each other- Since I have no money because the IRS is taking their sweet ass time getting me my return I have no money to file for said divorce and I have something more important like bills to pay for. I can take care of the divorce no matter where I am so for now that sits on the back burner mmmmmK?
5)A moth in my wallet?- See said comment about the IRS taking its sweet ass time, accompanied by my lack of being able to work, and Ron losing his job and just now finding another.
Any other commentary or have I pretty much summed it all up for you.
Now I should clarify that the only people in my family that have stuck by me through this is my mom, and my sister. Everyone else is out for blood.
It is my life and I don't know what kind of difference it makes the choices I make in it. Why should they get a say in what I say or do? I didn't get to help you with your kitchen remodel, I didn't get to give my opinion if he should have gotten the end tables in your divorce, I really wouldn't have chosen that house it is too close to the bypass.... oh but wait you didn't ask/or want my opinion in your life choices so what the hell makes you think I want you to butt into mine.
Hell I am almost 32 years old. I have been away from home since I was 18 years old. I have been in the working world since I was 15. I have lived in Florida and Nebraska by myself. LAST I checked I was not 15 and pregnant therefore I don't need your opinion. This is also a different day and age than most of them are used to and I get that, but changing times means changing your view on some things.
I understand it would be different if I was with someone who abuses me and/or I had a major drug or alcohol addiction then by all means intervene and try and get me the help, express your opinion, tell me that I need to get to rehab or dump the douche, however, since NONE of that happens to be the case why should what I have done, will do, or am doing matter one freaking bit to you. If you are not directly involved then you shouldn't be getting in my face.
Rant over!
Saturday, May 25, 2013
Thursday, May 23, 2013
How Much Is One Person Able To Handle
They say that God never gives you more than you can handle at one time. Well then he must think I am made of a damn diamond because I have had a crap ton thrown at me in a very little amount of time. I am paddling as fast as I can to keep my head above water, but I still feel like I am an ant and God is a mean kid with a magnifying glass on a hot day and I am getting burned by the ray of sunshine.
I just got off the phone with the love of my life and he told me that he didn't like it when I am very very quiet because that is not me. Which is true.. I am usually never quiet. However, it is easier to be quiet when you are trying your hardest to not break down in to tears. It seems that all I do anymore is just sit and cry while trying to get from one day to the next. I know that there is no quick way to remedy this situation what so ever, as much as I wish that there was.
Again, I feel that I am adding so much stress to his life that he doesn't need and again I feel like a burden. I have been strong most of my life and I feel that I have finally met my breaking point.
I cry because:
We are so far apart from each other and it hurts so much
I feel that I am going to fail as a mom
I feel I am failing as a girlfriend
I feel I am failing as a person in general
I am not cleared to work so I am having a hard time remedying my financial situation
I feel like I can't call any place in particular home
I have been trying so hard to keep my anxiety attacks in check but in the end, I have ended up having 4 today. I am in constant pain and I have no more pain pills so I must work through it.
I just want to walk off a plane and into his arms and never have to leave. I want our family together. I want a place of our own, a job, the meaniel task of paying bills every month. The joy of watching him be a father and our little girl growing up. I am not wanting the fairytale. I am just wanting the person that I love the most, that has been my strength through it all, I am just wanting him...and I know that deep down that is what he wants too.
I am really not feeling like myself at all. I am usually strong-willed, determined, sure of myself, and right now I am none of those things. I feel very unsure of myself, very beaten, battered, and bruised. I feel that I have failed all those that I love. I know that I am not but I feel very much alone.
I talk to my daughter and tell her that this is not like her mommy at all. I tell her what a great person her father is, and how much I want us to be a family. I don't think she understands any of it..
I guess I will see if the brain will finally shut itself off for a bit so that I can have a break and rest... that is until the next feeding time comes around for little one.
I just got off the phone with the love of my life and he told me that he didn't like it when I am very very quiet because that is not me. Which is true.. I am usually never quiet. However, it is easier to be quiet when you are trying your hardest to not break down in to tears. It seems that all I do anymore is just sit and cry while trying to get from one day to the next. I know that there is no quick way to remedy this situation what so ever, as much as I wish that there was.
Again, I feel that I am adding so much stress to his life that he doesn't need and again I feel like a burden. I have been strong most of my life and I feel that I have finally met my breaking point.
I cry because:
We are so far apart from each other and it hurts so much
I feel that I am going to fail as a mom
I feel I am failing as a girlfriend
I feel I am failing as a person in general
I am not cleared to work so I am having a hard time remedying my financial situation
I feel like I can't call any place in particular home
I have been trying so hard to keep my anxiety attacks in check but in the end, I have ended up having 4 today. I am in constant pain and I have no more pain pills so I must work through it.
I just want to walk off a plane and into his arms and never have to leave. I want our family together. I want a place of our own, a job, the meaniel task of paying bills every month. The joy of watching him be a father and our little girl growing up. I am not wanting the fairytale. I am just wanting the person that I love the most, that has been my strength through it all, I am just wanting him...and I know that deep down that is what he wants too.
I am really not feeling like myself at all. I am usually strong-willed, determined, sure of myself, and right now I am none of those things. I feel very unsure of myself, very beaten, battered, and bruised. I feel that I have failed all those that I love. I know that I am not but I feel very much alone.
I talk to my daughter and tell her that this is not like her mommy at all. I tell her what a great person her father is, and how much I want us to be a family. I don't think she understands any of it..
I guess I will see if the brain will finally shut itself off for a bit so that I can have a break and rest... that is until the next feeding time comes around for little one.
Tuesday, May 21, 2013
When all hope is lost
Yes, this is going to be one of those blogs. If you don't wish to hear me bitch then turn around and walk right back out the door you came in.
This is my way of getting my thoughts out, a way to express myself. I am not asking anyone to read what I write or for that matter give a damn about anything I write.
For the first time in my life I feel like and utter and complete failure. I am not pulling the oh whoa is me card. I am just simply stating what I feel and I feel like a failure. Plain and simple.
I feel so displaced that I honestly feel the only place I feel like I could call a home right about now is the inside of my car. My home is not my home anymore or at least I don't feel welcomed there anymore. My mom's house isn't mine and the living situation there is less than stellar. I have no friends up here that I could go and stay with, and for the time being I do not have a place I can call home in the place that I really want to call home.
My financial situation is in ruins and I am not sure what to do next. I think one of the dumbest moves I ever made was to get married. As much as I would love to one day marry the man that I love more than anything I am scared shitless that it would ruin everything.
I am so stressed out that I am not sure if my comments are snarky and sarcastic or if I am being down right a major bitch. You know something is really wrong when you don't want to be on the phone with the person that you love because the min you hear their voice and the realization that they are as far away as they are hits, all you want to do is break down and cry. So instead you hang up the phone, get on the Internet, pour everything out in your blog and ball your eyes out like a baby while your child sleeps in peaceful bliss in what she thinks is a perfect world.
Oh if only that was the case. This tiny innocent creature has no idea what I am doing to just get from one day to the next because she depends on me too.. I can't give up I have to push forward if not only for myself but mostly for her.
No I am not writing a dear john I am going to jump off a bridge letter, so don't even assume I am so uber depressed that I am going to harm myself. I have never been that type of person. Yes life sucks sometimes. It wouldn't be life if it was easy peasy now would it.
Everything just so happens to be hitting me at once and with the increased hormones I am just one ball of stress, nerves, and inundated emotions. The fact that the love of my life is so far away from me and I can't just crumple into a heap in his arms and just cry and have him wipe away my tears does majorly bother me. Am I a hopeless romantic and just wanted everything to be peaches and cream....you're damn straight....is it reality, fuck no.
If my life was ever a romantic comedy it would be more comedy that romance... or at least that is the way it seems.
Part of me wonders if I am the right person for the one that I love, sometimes I think that I have just mearly complicated his life to a point where it would be easier to figure out a damn Rubik cube than to untwine the complications I have brought into his life. Have I had thoughts at one time or another of just saying I cant do this anymore because he deserves better. Sure I have, frequently actually. Is it because I think he can, some of it is. Some of it is because when you are told something over and over and over for most of your life you start to believe it and it takes a long time for you to unbelieve something.
I am an emotional, physical, financial mess and there is a large part of me that thinks no one should have to deal with it. I hate to be the burden of others and right now that is what I feel like....and extremely large burden on everyone around me. Indirectly or not I still feel burdish...
Don't feel sorry for me I land on my feet eventually. I am just at the point right now where I am not even sure when that will be. I just need to do some major self-reflection and figure out which direction I am going in and see if this time maybe just maybe, I won't fuck something else up. After all...Not all hope is lost.
This is my way of getting my thoughts out, a way to express myself. I am not asking anyone to read what I write or for that matter give a damn about anything I write.
For the first time in my life I feel like and utter and complete failure. I am not pulling the oh whoa is me card. I am just simply stating what I feel and I feel like a failure. Plain and simple.
I feel so displaced that I honestly feel the only place I feel like I could call a home right about now is the inside of my car. My home is not my home anymore or at least I don't feel welcomed there anymore. My mom's house isn't mine and the living situation there is less than stellar. I have no friends up here that I could go and stay with, and for the time being I do not have a place I can call home in the place that I really want to call home.
My financial situation is in ruins and I am not sure what to do next. I think one of the dumbest moves I ever made was to get married. As much as I would love to one day marry the man that I love more than anything I am scared shitless that it would ruin everything.
I am so stressed out that I am not sure if my comments are snarky and sarcastic or if I am being down right a major bitch. You know something is really wrong when you don't want to be on the phone with the person that you love because the min you hear their voice and the realization that they are as far away as they are hits, all you want to do is break down and cry. So instead you hang up the phone, get on the Internet, pour everything out in your blog and ball your eyes out like a baby while your child sleeps in peaceful bliss in what she thinks is a perfect world.
Oh if only that was the case. This tiny innocent creature has no idea what I am doing to just get from one day to the next because she depends on me too.. I can't give up I have to push forward if not only for myself but mostly for her.
No I am not writing a dear john I am going to jump off a bridge letter, so don't even assume I am so uber depressed that I am going to harm myself. I have never been that type of person. Yes life sucks sometimes. It wouldn't be life if it was easy peasy now would it.
Everything just so happens to be hitting me at once and with the increased hormones I am just one ball of stress, nerves, and inundated emotions. The fact that the love of my life is so far away from me and I can't just crumple into a heap in his arms and just cry and have him wipe away my tears does majorly bother me. Am I a hopeless romantic and just wanted everything to be peaches and cream....you're damn straight....is it reality, fuck no.
If my life was ever a romantic comedy it would be more comedy that romance... or at least that is the way it seems.
Part of me wonders if I am the right person for the one that I love, sometimes I think that I have just mearly complicated his life to a point where it would be easier to figure out a damn Rubik cube than to untwine the complications I have brought into his life. Have I had thoughts at one time or another of just saying I cant do this anymore because he deserves better. Sure I have, frequently actually. Is it because I think he can, some of it is. Some of it is because when you are told something over and over and over for most of your life you start to believe it and it takes a long time for you to unbelieve something.
I am an emotional, physical, financial mess and there is a large part of me that thinks no one should have to deal with it. I hate to be the burden of others and right now that is what I feel like....and extremely large burden on everyone around me. Indirectly or not I still feel burdish...
Don't feel sorry for me I land on my feet eventually. I am just at the point right now where I am not even sure when that will be. I just need to do some major self-reflection and figure out which direction I am going in and see if this time maybe just maybe, I won't fuck something else up. After all...Not all hope is lost.
Friday, May 17, 2013
Write, Write, Write, Just Write.......
So in a matter of less than a month, my life has gone partially to absolute crap, to partially going in the direction that I was hoping for.
Yes I have been wanting a divorce from my husband for a while now, but when he called me out of the blue one morning and said he couldn't do it anymore and that he wanted it over and done with and he was moving to Michigan it caught me a little off guard. Now I know what your thinking, if this is what I wanted why am I having such a hard time with it. Well I guess that would be because he doesn't give a damn anymore and to a point I don't either. I guess what it is, is that I do still care for my husband, as a friend, and as a friend I don't wish him any ill will and would like to see him happy. I do care and yes at one time in my life I did love him. To a point I still love him, but only as a friend and no longer as a husband or lover. So I guess what stings for me is that he doesn't care about me or anything having to do with me anymore. He has told me that we should have never gotten married in 2008 and that he has not been happy since 2009. Which tells me that he wanted out of this way before I did, yet he never said anything. He doesn't care what happens to me, any of my things, or how I will survive when I am not allowed to work yet. He lost his job and now he is looking for work but he is depending on my mom to pay our bills. She is helping me out with a roof over my head and a place for me and my child. He told me that he would make sure that I was ok with everything and help me to get to the place I want to be, yet now that he has no job and really isn't giving a damn everything has changed. I have tried to be nice I have tried to be civil, but now I am just getting sick and tired of it all. I am patiently waiting for my tax return to come in so that I can get all this crap paid off and get the hell out of dodge and get on with my life.
May 4th my world forever changed. The little life that I had been harboring in my belly finally decided she was ready to come out, the apparently changed her mind resulting in an emergency c-section. I was over joyed that she was here however part of me was saddened because her daddy couldn't be here to see her born. I also had brought her into a world in the middle of for the lack of a better word, shit storm of drama. Something so innocent should never have to be subjected to any of this. Tipping the scales at a staggering 4lbs 10oz at birth she is probably over 5lbs now but I will know more at her next doctors appointment on Monday. Tomorrow she turns 2 weeks old. I cant believe that 14 days has already almost passed. The day after Mother's Day I had to put her daddy and the love of my life back on a plane to Florida. I thought that I was going to be able to handle it. I mean yea ok, I never did to well when it was just me having to tell him good bye all the times that I left him, but this time it wasn't just me but her that also had to say good bye and yes even though she is small and really doesn't know all that is going on, it was the hardest thing I had to do was watch him turn that corner and disappear to the boarding gate. I cried for the next 3 days and to a point I still cry. I miss him. A LOT!
I know I have said it many times before, that I love this man with all that I am, but I do. He has been my rock when all I have wanted to do is give up. He has stuck by me through a lot of tough shit in my life when even people that live close to me didn't seem to give a damn...well with the exception of my mother. He has been my sounding board when all I need to do is vent. He has never judged me, never expected anything but who and what I am from me. He takes me as I am faults and all. He has never wanted to change me, he has never asked for anything more from me than he would expect me to ask of himself. He has stood by me when it mattered most. He has loved me unconditionally even when I could not love myself. He has gone above and beyond anything I could ever ask for. He isn't rich, he doesn't have all the nicest things in the world, he has been given his share of shit to deal with, he isn't the perfect person, he may not always say the right things, he isn't the super sappy romantic man that you see in the movies, he is who he is and that is the man that I fell in love with and want to spend the rest of my life raising our daughter together. We are going to falter, we are going to fail at somethings, but if we can raise her to the best of our ability while supporting and loving each other and never taking each other for granted, then I think we will achieve great success...
Yes I have been wanting a divorce from my husband for a while now, but when he called me out of the blue one morning and said he couldn't do it anymore and that he wanted it over and done with and he was moving to Michigan it caught me a little off guard. Now I know what your thinking, if this is what I wanted why am I having such a hard time with it. Well I guess that would be because he doesn't give a damn anymore and to a point I don't either. I guess what it is, is that I do still care for my husband, as a friend, and as a friend I don't wish him any ill will and would like to see him happy. I do care and yes at one time in my life I did love him. To a point I still love him, but only as a friend and no longer as a husband or lover. So I guess what stings for me is that he doesn't care about me or anything having to do with me anymore. He has told me that we should have never gotten married in 2008 and that he has not been happy since 2009. Which tells me that he wanted out of this way before I did, yet he never said anything. He doesn't care what happens to me, any of my things, or how I will survive when I am not allowed to work yet. He lost his job and now he is looking for work but he is depending on my mom to pay our bills. She is helping me out with a roof over my head and a place for me and my child. He told me that he would make sure that I was ok with everything and help me to get to the place I want to be, yet now that he has no job and really isn't giving a damn everything has changed. I have tried to be nice I have tried to be civil, but now I am just getting sick and tired of it all. I am patiently waiting for my tax return to come in so that I can get all this crap paid off and get the hell out of dodge and get on with my life.
May 4th my world forever changed. The little life that I had been harboring in my belly finally decided she was ready to come out, the apparently changed her mind resulting in an emergency c-section. I was over joyed that she was here however part of me was saddened because her daddy couldn't be here to see her born. I also had brought her into a world in the middle of for the lack of a better word, shit storm of drama. Something so innocent should never have to be subjected to any of this. Tipping the scales at a staggering 4lbs 10oz at birth she is probably over 5lbs now but I will know more at her next doctors appointment on Monday. Tomorrow she turns 2 weeks old. I cant believe that 14 days has already almost passed. The day after Mother's Day I had to put her daddy and the love of my life back on a plane to Florida. I thought that I was going to be able to handle it. I mean yea ok, I never did to well when it was just me having to tell him good bye all the times that I left him, but this time it wasn't just me but her that also had to say good bye and yes even though she is small and really doesn't know all that is going on, it was the hardest thing I had to do was watch him turn that corner and disappear to the boarding gate. I cried for the next 3 days and to a point I still cry. I miss him. A LOT!
I know I have said it many times before, that I love this man with all that I am, but I do. He has been my rock when all I have wanted to do is give up. He has stuck by me through a lot of tough shit in my life when even people that live close to me didn't seem to give a damn...well with the exception of my mother. He has been my sounding board when all I need to do is vent. He has never judged me, never expected anything but who and what I am from me. He takes me as I am faults and all. He has never wanted to change me, he has never asked for anything more from me than he would expect me to ask of himself. He has stood by me when it mattered most. He has loved me unconditionally even when I could not love myself. He has gone above and beyond anything I could ever ask for. He isn't rich, he doesn't have all the nicest things in the world, he has been given his share of shit to deal with, he isn't the perfect person, he may not always say the right things, he isn't the super sappy romantic man that you see in the movies, he is who he is and that is the man that I fell in love with and want to spend the rest of my life raising our daughter together. We are going to falter, we are going to fail at somethings, but if we can raise her to the best of our ability while supporting and loving each other and never taking each other for granted, then I think we will achieve great success...
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Trust
I have a problem, and the first step in solving a problem is admitting you have one right?
Ok well then I am here to admit, I have a problem with trust. I guess if you can really call it a problem. I trust my guy with all my heart, and every time he is going to hang out with someone he calls me to see if I have an issue with it. Which I don't. I don't want to be the one to come between him and his friends. I mean they were there before me and have known him longer than I have.
Maybe it is just the hormones from pregnancy talking, but I have felt this way before I got pregnant. Is it the distance? Is it my own personal insecurities? And what is the deal with me being extremely ok when he goes and hangs with a guy friend, but damn near freak myself out when he wants to hang with a female friend? I have guy friends and I have girl friends and he should be able to as well. Is this just one of those Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus moments? Something that is a catch-22 when it comes to the opposite sexes?
I just feel like a horrible girlfriend because I have so many trust issues and doubts when he has never once given me a reason to feel this way. Is it because of my past? Or an I just that insecure and unsure of myself?
I personally think that it is all in my head. After all he does call me every day, multiple times a day. He even called me after he scared the living hell out of himself thinking he lost the ring I had bought him. I mean if I wasn't supposed to trust him would he even give a damn to do all the things that he does.. Probably not.
I am really hoping that one of these days I will be able to not doubt myself as much as I do, which is A LOT!
Ok well then I am here to admit, I have a problem with trust. I guess if you can really call it a problem. I trust my guy with all my heart, and every time he is going to hang out with someone he calls me to see if I have an issue with it. Which I don't. I don't want to be the one to come between him and his friends. I mean they were there before me and have known him longer than I have.
Maybe it is just the hormones from pregnancy talking, but I have felt this way before I got pregnant. Is it the distance? Is it my own personal insecurities? And what is the deal with me being extremely ok when he goes and hangs with a guy friend, but damn near freak myself out when he wants to hang with a female friend? I have guy friends and I have girl friends and he should be able to as well. Is this just one of those Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus moments? Something that is a catch-22 when it comes to the opposite sexes?
I just feel like a horrible girlfriend because I have so many trust issues and doubts when he has never once given me a reason to feel this way. Is it because of my past? Or an I just that insecure and unsure of myself?
I personally think that it is all in my head. After all he does call me every day, multiple times a day. He even called me after he scared the living hell out of himself thinking he lost the ring I had bought him. I mean if I wasn't supposed to trust him would he even give a damn to do all the things that he does.. Probably not.
I am really hoping that one of these days I will be able to not doubt myself as much as I do, which is A LOT!
Wednesday, March 13, 2013
Overactive on the Verge of Bat Shit Crazy......
Screaming, pounding against the wall, crying. Giving up seemed like the only way to go.
I knew it was a dream, but for whatever reason I could not make myself wake. I felt the wetness of the pillow beneath my head but yet my eyes refused to open. I was stuck there in that corner with nowhere to run. Everyone had disappeared, not a single soul was there to hear my screams.
The shadow appeared and told me it was time and everything was going to end. I heard the shot and everything went black, then there was peace. It was then and only then my body let me wake. The room was dark, there was no sound. My breathing was labored and unsteady.
It was still early. I decided to lay back down. This time I was in the hospital, my daughter in my arms. He was standing there looking at her and me, no emotion was showing on his face. The words he said to me stung like a slap in the face. "I can't do this" With that he turned and left. Everyone around me was rejoycing. She was being passed around from person to person everyone fawning over how adorable she was. All I could do was stare at the place that he once stood. Shocked, saddened, and just wanting to cry. That was it? It was that easy to turn away and throw away a year or more of what I thought had been something that happened once in a lifetime? Did he ever really care? He had to, he told me he loved me every day, went out of his way to let me know what he was doing, took time off work to spend with me, talked about our future (somewhat), claimed me as his girl, texted me every morning, called me multiple times a day. And he just washed his hands of it all?
I woke with a start.... these dreams have really got to stop. I am not sure emotionally how much more I can take. Money is better (not great but better), pregnancy is showing no issues other than she is still small and they are wanting me to go as long as I can even if that means carrying a month or more past when I am due. If I go into labor fine, if I don't they will either let it go natural or if she shows signs of being big enough and far enough in development then they will take her via c-section.
My move to Florida is on hold until I can get the money together to get there. I unfortunately can't do it on my own and will be relying on the jackass to move with me. I don't know if it the fact that I am on bed rest and it is making me stir crazy but I have been trying to occupy my mind and not let things bother me, not read to far into things, and to not make something big out of something that is not even there.
I cry because I have to be so far away from him and it is nothing that either of us can wave a wand and remidy. I guess I am just wanting to much all at once. I want him, I want our daughter, I want our home, I want my life with him. I hate being so far away from him and relying on technology to keep us together. I left my heart in Florida and so desperetly want to be where my heart lies. As the movie says...."Home is where the heart is"
I want his arms around me, I want his kiss, I want to hear his heart beat and feel the warmth of his touch. I want him next to me, I want to wake up to him every morning, and as stupid as this may sound but I want to even do the most mundane things with him, grocery shopping, laundry, sitting at the house while he plays his game and I play mine. I just want my life, my love, my strength, my light, my angel in disguise.
Will he ever know how much I truly love him, will he ever know that I would give my life to save him. There is nothing that I wouldn't do for him. Yet a large part of me is scared out of my mind, why all the fears. By now I shouldn't have any......so then why is there still the lingering tug of uncertainty?
Maybe playing some Warcraft or Torchlight 2 will take my mind off things... well at least for a while.
I knew it was a dream, but for whatever reason I could not make myself wake. I felt the wetness of the pillow beneath my head but yet my eyes refused to open. I was stuck there in that corner with nowhere to run. Everyone had disappeared, not a single soul was there to hear my screams.
The shadow appeared and told me it was time and everything was going to end. I heard the shot and everything went black, then there was peace. It was then and only then my body let me wake. The room was dark, there was no sound. My breathing was labored and unsteady.
It was still early. I decided to lay back down. This time I was in the hospital, my daughter in my arms. He was standing there looking at her and me, no emotion was showing on his face. The words he said to me stung like a slap in the face. "I can't do this" With that he turned and left. Everyone around me was rejoycing. She was being passed around from person to person everyone fawning over how adorable she was. All I could do was stare at the place that he once stood. Shocked, saddened, and just wanting to cry. That was it? It was that easy to turn away and throw away a year or more of what I thought had been something that happened once in a lifetime? Did he ever really care? He had to, he told me he loved me every day, went out of his way to let me know what he was doing, took time off work to spend with me, talked about our future (somewhat), claimed me as his girl, texted me every morning, called me multiple times a day. And he just washed his hands of it all?
I woke with a start.... these dreams have really got to stop. I am not sure emotionally how much more I can take. Money is better (not great but better), pregnancy is showing no issues other than she is still small and they are wanting me to go as long as I can even if that means carrying a month or more past when I am due. If I go into labor fine, if I don't they will either let it go natural or if she shows signs of being big enough and far enough in development then they will take her via c-section.
My move to Florida is on hold until I can get the money together to get there. I unfortunately can't do it on my own and will be relying on the jackass to move with me. I don't know if it the fact that I am on bed rest and it is making me stir crazy but I have been trying to occupy my mind and not let things bother me, not read to far into things, and to not make something big out of something that is not even there.
I cry because I have to be so far away from him and it is nothing that either of us can wave a wand and remidy. I guess I am just wanting to much all at once. I want him, I want our daughter, I want our home, I want my life with him. I hate being so far away from him and relying on technology to keep us together. I left my heart in Florida and so desperetly want to be where my heart lies. As the movie says...."Home is where the heart is"
I want his arms around me, I want his kiss, I want to hear his heart beat and feel the warmth of his touch. I want him next to me, I want to wake up to him every morning, and as stupid as this may sound but I want to even do the most mundane things with him, grocery shopping, laundry, sitting at the house while he plays his game and I play mine. I just want my life, my love, my strength, my light, my angel in disguise.
Will he ever know how much I truly love him, will he ever know that I would give my life to save him. There is nothing that I wouldn't do for him. Yet a large part of me is scared out of my mind, why all the fears. By now I shouldn't have any......so then why is there still the lingering tug of uncertainty?
Maybe playing some Warcraft or Torchlight 2 will take my mind off things... well at least for a while.
Monday, February 25, 2013
Beyond Stressed!
Ever get a feeling something is wrong but you're not sure what. I
have been having that nagging feeling for a couple of weeks now and I am
not sure how to go about bringing it up. I don't know what the issue
is, if there is even one at all. Part of me thinks that it is just my
mind being over productive and making something out of something that
isn't there. How do I bring up the subject though.
"Hey babe something is different.. do you want me to just leave you the hell alone?"
Yeah that would go over great...
My bills keep piling up and I cry constantly. I am in pain all the time and I am not sure what is going to happen from one day to the next. Loving him is what is keeping me going when all I want to do is give up. Even through distance he has been what has gotten me from one day to the next.
I am finding it very hard to keep my head above the water. My bills are getting farther and farther behind. I really need to find work but the doctors have told me it wasn't a good idea and that I need to wait til after the baby is born. I might not have a roof over my head by that time.
I need to find homes for my animals and deep down I know what I have to do. I look at each of them and they give me that look of helplessness and I just fall to pieces.
My health is taking it's toll on me and I find it hard to get up in the morning to face another day. Partially because if the bill situation, and basically because of the sleeplessness and just being so uncomfortable.
I am worried about my baby because she yet again has stopped developing and the doctors are wanting me to carry a full month or more over my due date if she does not continue to grow. They say there is a good chance for birth issues and that she will have developmental disabilities. All of which I will deal with as they come. I don't have any strength or any energy, I am losing weight again, which the doctors didn't want, yet in order to keep my blood sugars in check I have to weigh and measure and count everything I eat. It is a very difficult task.
I am ready to just walk away from it all. The only thing I don't want to walk away from is him and our daughter, but even that is complicated. Neither of us has the money for a place of our own, and my doctors and providers are here part of the reason I stay.
I am worried about him and everything that he has going on in his life. I wonder every day if he is ready for what is coming next with the baby and everything. I have prepared myself to do this on my own and I would not hold a single thing against him if he told me he couldn't handle it and just wanted to walk away. Yes this was a surprise to both of us. We were careful, we took precautions, but due to a little misinformation or actually no information at all from the doctor about meds I was on rendering birth control ineffective this is what happened and I am now dealing with it's consequence. I am ready for a complete change in my life, and if he doesn't want that responsibility I am not going to force him to.
I wonder every day if I am truly what he wants or if there isn't someone out there that can make him happier. It hurts me to think that but I have literally turned his world upside down and inside out and I can only imagine what the roller-coaster feels like to him.
There are so many things I wish that I could go back and do over. I would have never quit my job because I thought that I could go back to school. I would have never said I do, and took the plunge. I would have never left Florida and just made a life for myself down there.
I am trying to balance the balls I have been given in my life's juggling act.. but I am beginning to think that I am going to fail and not be able to keep all the balls in the air. I am adding more to it in a very short time and not sure if I can keep going.
I just want to curl up by his side and just cry. Not a word to be spoken just to feel his love and know that he wishes me no harm,
I love him so much, but part of me wonders how much more he is willing to deal with before he would just tell me he can't do it anymore. I am so scared to lose someone who means so much to me.
I try to find things to occupy my mind because when I have nothing but time to think is usually when the blogs like this end up getting written. I keep telling myself that everything will work out the way it is supposed to and this is just a stepping stone in the plan that is my life. I take it one day at a time as hard as that is, and no matter what I will survive, even when I think I can't.
"Hey babe something is different.. do you want me to just leave you the hell alone?"
Yeah that would go over great...
My bills keep piling up and I cry constantly. I am in pain all the time and I am not sure what is going to happen from one day to the next. Loving him is what is keeping me going when all I want to do is give up. Even through distance he has been what has gotten me from one day to the next.
I am finding it very hard to keep my head above the water. My bills are getting farther and farther behind. I really need to find work but the doctors have told me it wasn't a good idea and that I need to wait til after the baby is born. I might not have a roof over my head by that time.
I need to find homes for my animals and deep down I know what I have to do. I look at each of them and they give me that look of helplessness and I just fall to pieces.
My health is taking it's toll on me and I find it hard to get up in the morning to face another day. Partially because if the bill situation, and basically because of the sleeplessness and just being so uncomfortable.
I am worried about my baby because she yet again has stopped developing and the doctors are wanting me to carry a full month or more over my due date if she does not continue to grow. They say there is a good chance for birth issues and that she will have developmental disabilities. All of which I will deal with as they come. I don't have any strength or any energy, I am losing weight again, which the doctors didn't want, yet in order to keep my blood sugars in check I have to weigh and measure and count everything I eat. It is a very difficult task.
I am ready to just walk away from it all. The only thing I don't want to walk away from is him and our daughter, but even that is complicated. Neither of us has the money for a place of our own, and my doctors and providers are here part of the reason I stay.
I am worried about him and everything that he has going on in his life. I wonder every day if he is ready for what is coming next with the baby and everything. I have prepared myself to do this on my own and I would not hold a single thing against him if he told me he couldn't handle it and just wanted to walk away. Yes this was a surprise to both of us. We were careful, we took precautions, but due to a little misinformation or actually no information at all from the doctor about meds I was on rendering birth control ineffective this is what happened and I am now dealing with it's consequence. I am ready for a complete change in my life, and if he doesn't want that responsibility I am not going to force him to.
I wonder every day if I am truly what he wants or if there isn't someone out there that can make him happier. It hurts me to think that but I have literally turned his world upside down and inside out and I can only imagine what the roller-coaster feels like to him.
There are so many things I wish that I could go back and do over. I would have never quit my job because I thought that I could go back to school. I would have never said I do, and took the plunge. I would have never left Florida and just made a life for myself down there.
I am trying to balance the balls I have been given in my life's juggling act.. but I am beginning to think that I am going to fail and not be able to keep all the balls in the air. I am adding more to it in a very short time and not sure if I can keep going.
I just want to curl up by his side and just cry. Not a word to be spoken just to feel his love and know that he wishes me no harm,
I love him so much, but part of me wonders how much more he is willing to deal with before he would just tell me he can't do it anymore. I am so scared to lose someone who means so much to me.
I try to find things to occupy my mind because when I have nothing but time to think is usually when the blogs like this end up getting written. I keep telling myself that everything will work out the way it is supposed to and this is just a stepping stone in the plan that is my life. I take it one day at a time as hard as that is, and no matter what I will survive, even when I think I can't.
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